Life and death are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. The power of the tongue is life and death— those who love to talk will eat what it produces. Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love its use will eat its fruit.
What are you speaking out of your mouth about your relationship/marriage? What you speak could literally be what makes or breaks your relationship/marriage. Sadly, many women and even men are operating in the spirit of Jezebel and don't even know it. You show up in your relationship as a mean person... someone who is not safe. You might even sabotage your good thing due to feelings of inadequacy. Whatever your ordeal, it's not to late to turn it around. If you want your relationship, take these steps to start the process to overcome this obstacle.
SHUT UP! I know you've heard this before; if you can't say anything nice don't say it at all. However, it goes beyond that. You must shut up but you must also change your mindset. In 2016, Judy Allen published a Blog called Five Steps to Renewing Your Mind
Step 1: Ask the Lord to guard and direct your mind.
Step 2: Recognize the source of self-focused and self-defeating thoughts.
Step 3: Replace self-focused thinking with a God-focused mindset.
Step 4: Rest in the truth that you are accepted in Jesus Christ.
Step 5: Repeat steps 1-4 daily.
Romans 12: 2 says, Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
2. Check yourself. There is no need in playing the damsel in distress when you know that you have caused an offense in
your relationship. It is easy to point the finger at the other person. KNOW THIS: there is not innocent person when there is a rift in the relationship. Each person has to take ownership of their actions. It is a responsibility that you have
to show your integrity in the relationship. If you are lacking in this area, you must go back to step one and maybe even
seek the help of a counselor, therapist, and a coach. There is always room for forgiveness. Humble yourself and give it
up... say something like this: "Babe, I know I was wrong when I ______________. Will you please forgive me?" You are not
responsible for the other person accepting your apology. You are only responsible for asking for forgiveness.
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.
3. Speak LIFE (Love Is For Everyone) into your relationship/marriage. It is imperative for the survival of your mate's ability
pour back into you. Refuse to allow anyone to speak negatively about your significant other or your husband (men, your
wives). Protect them, even if they haven't reached a higher level of integrity. Protect them even if they have fallen in the
past. Keep your business away from the street committee. Affirm and build your significant other up. What you pour into
him, you will receive in return.
In relationships, you must forgive often and love harder. There is no me in we. There is no I in us. If your thoughts are primarily for you, then you definitely want to seek help. Schedule a Chat with Wifecoach Keci. I am here for you. I want to see you succeed in your relationship/marriage.
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